The Daily Vitamin of Friendship
Every morning at eighty-two, I sort my pills with the same reverence my mother once used for Sunday china. The vitamin bottle sits there among the prescriptions—orange-capped, promising nothing more dramatic than bone health. Yet it's not the supplement that's kept me vital all these years. It's something my friend Arthur taught me forty years ago on the padel court.
We played every Tuesday and Thursday morning for decades, Arthur and I. He'd arrive wearing that ridiculous beige fedora, sweating through his pressed shirt, grinning like he'd just won the lottery. "Max, you old rascal," he'd say, "your backhand's still got the finesse of a rusty gate." He was right, of course, but that wasn't the point.
The lightning came on a Tuesday in 1978—a sudden storm that turned our friendly match into something sacred. We huddled under the metal shelter, rain sheeting down, watching the sky crack open again and again. Arthur took off his hat, wrung it out, and said something I've carried like a prayer: "You know, Max, friendship is the only vitamin that actually works. The rest is just packaging."
He died five years ago, leaving me that fedora and a lifetime of Tuesday mornings. Now my granddaughter has taken up padel. She asked me once why I still keep Arthur's hat on my closet shelf. I told her some things you don't keep because they're useful—you keep them because they're proof of something that mattered.
I still sort my vitamins every morning, osteoporosis prevention in one hand, Arthur's wisdom in the other. The pills may keep my bones strong, but it's the memory of that lightning storm and a friend who understood what really matters that keeps me whole. Some legacies don't fade—they just get passed down like old stories and well-worn hats, becoming, in time, the very vitamins that sustain us.